I am not very sure whether the statement “Emotions over Mind is unhealthy” is debatable or not. But certainly, I had always thought about it and nearly concluded that, “Yes, it is”. When something has become a part of your life and you are confused with that then I think that it that one thing that is worthwhile of your time to settle it at the earliest. Particularly for me “Uncertainty is certainly a big mess”.
Now back to the issue, a bit of background of why it was haunting me for quite a long time. Me and my beautiful wife use to have arguments sometimes. And the funny part is that most of them are unnecessary ones and certainly unhealthy for the family collectively. The funniest part being that we don’t conclude that for very long time! There were many occasions when I felt that it is going to rattle my married life and worst I ever thought that, “This is my last day with her” and of course vice versa from her part.
Our argument (on most of the occasions) normally starts with very silly things and easily gets blown up very fast. I slowly started to realize that situation gets out of control when either one of us is teased until to a point where we get emotional. Can I call that as “emotional breakeven point”? It is the same as definition of tensile strength of plastic materials in physics. When you pull a rubber band apart (Applied Stress) holding both the ends in your hands, it expands (Shear rate) and as soon as it is released, it regains it original length (length that was at its normal state). But when you continue to pull the rubber band you would realize that after a certain point even after you release the tension, it doesn’t get back to its original state. And that point at which this starts to happen is the breakeven point or the elasticity point. Below this point the rubber band acts as a normal rubber with its original characters and after this point it loses its original character and the behavior becomes unpredictable from its original state. We can draw similarities from here to our emotional breakeven point. When someone’s emotions are put up for a toss, he or she would be in her normal behavior until this point, which when crossed then he or she loses their identity and their behaviors become highly unpredictable.
It is then like an uncontrolled chain reaction. It would stop only when all its reactants are used off or something that is necessary to sustain the reaction for a prolonged time is withdrawn. Here it might be compared to stop teasing and remain silent. Let the other party to ease off by themselves, nothing can stop that emotional breakout. Worst is when you try to stop that forcefully. It might be advisable to pour water over a fire, to put it off, when the fire is still in the primitive stage. Once it has become a forest fire then, I don’t think that one can put off that fire with the same amount of water one has. Lets admit it, the fire has gone out of control, let it burn out. Worst, on some conditions the water even acts as an additional fuel to the fire isn’t it?
The mind (or the brain) is the one that should always have a control over the functioning of the body mechanism. When you start to think intelligently, your actions are optimized and you thus save lots of energy for the next set of actions. Very importantly you save troubles! But once emotions take the control over the brain, the intelligence is lost forever and thus you invite troubles.
Kindly don’t ever let your emotions take over the control from your mind.
Now back to the issue, a bit of background of why it was haunting me for quite a long time. Me and my beautiful wife use to have arguments sometimes. And the funny part is that most of them are unnecessary ones and certainly unhealthy for the family collectively. The funniest part being that we don’t conclude that for very long time! There were many occasions when I felt that it is going to rattle my married life and worst I ever thought that, “This is my last day with her” and of course vice versa from her part.
Our argument (on most of the occasions) normally starts with very silly things and easily gets blown up very fast. I slowly started to realize that situation gets out of control when either one of us is teased until to a point where we get emotional. Can I call that as “emotional breakeven point”? It is the same as definition of tensile strength of plastic materials in physics. When you pull a rubber band apart (Applied Stress) holding both the ends in your hands, it expands (Shear rate) and as soon as it is released, it regains it original length (length that was at its normal state). But when you continue to pull the rubber band you would realize that after a certain point even after you release the tension, it doesn’t get back to its original state. And that point at which this starts to happen is the breakeven point or the elasticity point. Below this point the rubber band acts as a normal rubber with its original characters and after this point it loses its original character and the behavior becomes unpredictable from its original state. We can draw similarities from here to our emotional breakeven point. When someone’s emotions are put up for a toss, he or she would be in her normal behavior until this point, which when crossed then he or she loses their identity and their behaviors become highly unpredictable.
It is then like an uncontrolled chain reaction. It would stop only when all its reactants are used off or something that is necessary to sustain the reaction for a prolonged time is withdrawn. Here it might be compared to stop teasing and remain silent. Let the other party to ease off by themselves, nothing can stop that emotional breakout. Worst is when you try to stop that forcefully. It might be advisable to pour water over a fire, to put it off, when the fire is still in the primitive stage. Once it has become a forest fire then, I don’t think that one can put off that fire with the same amount of water one has. Lets admit it, the fire has gone out of control, let it burn out. Worst, on some conditions the water even acts as an additional fuel to the fire isn’t it?
The mind (or the brain) is the one that should always have a control over the functioning of the body mechanism. When you start to think intelligently, your actions are optimized and you thus save lots of energy for the next set of actions. Very importantly you save troubles! But once emotions take the control over the brain, the intelligence is lost forever and thus you invite troubles.
Kindly don’t ever let your emotions take over the control from your mind.
